No GNCC

Sanket Pai
3 min readAug 2, 2023
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โ€œ๐™‰๐™ค ๐—š๐—ก๐—–๐—– ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ข๐™ฎ ๐™ข๐™–๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™–,โ€ he saidโ€ฆ

โ€ฆin response to my question, โ€œHow are you showing up in life every day?โ€

Many years ago, I interviewed Ninad Tipnis, the founder of JTCPL Designs, an author, and an avid runner. He deeply reflected on this question and continued, โ€œ๐‘ฐ ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’Œ ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’† ๐’Š๐’” ๐’“๐’†๐’‚๐’๐’๐’š ๐’๐’ ๐’๐’‘๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’. ๐‘ฐ๐’‡ ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’๐’๐’๐’Œ ๐’‚๐’• ๐’Š๐’•, ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’† ๐’Š๐’” ๐’“๐’†๐’‚๐’๐’๐’š ๐’๐’ ๐’๐’‘๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’ƒ๐’–๐’• ๐’•๐’ ๐’ƒ๐’† ๐’๐’‘๐’•๐’Š๐’Ž๐’Š๐’”๐’•๐’Š๐’„ ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’‘๐’๐’”๐’Š๐’•๐’Š๐’—๐’† ๐’‚๐’ƒ๐’๐’–๐’• ๐’๐’Š๐’‡๐’†. ๐‘จ ๐’๐’๐’• ๐’๐’‡ ๐’‰๐’†๐’‚๐’๐’•๐’‰๐’š ๐’‘๐’†๐’๐’‘๐’๐’† ๐’“๐’†๐’‚๐’๐’Š๐’›๐’† ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’”๐’Ž๐’๐’Œ๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’Š๐’” ๐’Š๐’๐’‹๐’–๐’“๐’Š๐’๐’–๐’” ๐’•๐’ ๐’‰๐’†๐’‚๐’๐’•๐’‰ ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’”๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’š ๐’”๐’•๐’‚๐’š ๐’‚๐’˜๐’‚๐’š ๐’‡๐’“๐’๐’Ž ๐’”๐’Ž๐’๐’Œ๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ. ๐‘ฉ๐’–๐’•, ๐’˜๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’Ž๐’‚๐’๐’š ๐’‰๐’†๐’‚๐’๐’•๐’‰๐’š ๐’‘๐’†๐’๐’‘๐’๐’† ๐’…๐’๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’“๐’†๐’‚๐’๐’Š๐’›๐’† ๐’Š๐’” ๐‘ฎ๐‘ต๐‘ช๐‘ช ๐’Š๐’” ๐’†๐’—๐’†๐’ ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’Š๐’๐’‹๐’–๐’“๐’Š๐’๐’–๐’” ๐’•๐’ ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’‰๐’†๐’‚๐’๐’•๐’‰. ๐‘ฐ ๐’‚๐’Ž ๐’‚ ๐’‡๐’Š๐’“๐’Ž ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’๐’Š๐’†๐’—๐’†๐’“ ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’Š๐’• ๐’Š๐’” ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’Ž๐’†๐’๐’•๐’‚๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’ ๐’‘๐’‰๐’š๐’”๐’Š๐’„๐’‚๐’ ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’Ž๐’†๐’๐’•๐’‚๐’๐’Š๐’•๐’š ๐’Ž๐’‚๐’๐’Š๐’‡๐’†๐’”๐’•๐’” ๐’Š๐’ ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’‘๐’‰๐’š๐’”๐’Š๐’„๐’‚๐’๐’Š๐’•๐’š ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’“๐’†๐’‚๐’๐’Š๐’•๐’š. ๐‘บ๐’, ๐’Š๐’‡ ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’‚๐’“๐’† ๐’”๐’•๐’“๐’๐’๐’ˆ ๐’˜๐’Š๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’, ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’ ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’‚๐’“๐’† ๐’”๐’•๐’“๐’๐’๐’ˆ๐’†๐’“ ๐’†๐’™๐’•๐’†๐’“๐’๐’‚๐’๐’๐’š.โ€

So, what is this GNCC? According to Ninad, itโ€™s a phrase he coined โ€” No Gossip, Negativity, Criticism, and Complaint. As human beings, we tend to gravitate towards this GNCC. We get attracted to this. Whenever there is some gossip happening, we automatically want to be a part of that conversation. We want to know what is being said. Negativity is also something that a lot of us want to indulge in. The research community suggests that almost 80% of our daily thoughts are hinged on negativity. The same goes for criticism and complaints.

This is how all of this looks like in our thoughts and in our words:

Gossip: โ€œHey, I overheard Ankur speaking to corporate travels about expediting the tickets. I am sure he must have got a promotion and might be relocating abroad.โ€

Negativity: โ€œIโ€™ve been bad at every single job Iโ€™ve had. I will never get through this.โ€

Criticism: โ€œUgh, you always leave your dirty dishes in the sink.โ€

Complaint: โ€œIโ€™m always running into problems. Look at this huge traffic jam ahead.โ€

Ninad added, โ€œ๐‘ฐ๐’‡ ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’…๐’Š๐’”๐’„๐’Š๐’‘๐’๐’Š๐’๐’† ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’Ž๐’Š๐’๐’… ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’„๐’๐’๐’”๐’„๐’Š๐’๐’–๐’”๐’๐’š ๐’“๐’†๐’Ž๐’‚๐’Š๐’ ๐’‚๐’˜๐’‚๐’“๐’† ๐’•๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’‡๐’‚๐’„๐’• ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’•๐’ ๐’…๐’†๐’๐’š ๐’‚๐’๐’ ๐’๐’‡ ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’” (๐™‚๐™‰๐˜พ๐˜พ) ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’‚ ๐’‡๐’–๐’•๐’–๐’“๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’•๐’•๐’†๐’“ ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’‘๐’“๐’†๐’”๐’†๐’๐’•, ๐‘ฐ ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’Œ ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’๐’Š๐’‡๐’† ๐’‚๐’”๐’”๐’–๐’Ž๐’†๐’” ๐’‚ ๐’„๐’๐’Ž๐’‘๐’๐’†๐’•๐’†๐’๐’š ๐’๐’†๐’˜ ๐’Ž๐’†๐’‚๐’๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ. ๐‘จ๐’๐’… ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’ ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’”๐’•๐’‚๐’“๐’• ๐’†๐’™๐’•๐’“๐’–๐’…๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’‘๐’๐’”๐’Š๐’•๐’Š๐’—๐’Š๐’•๐’š. ๐‘ถ๐’‡ ๐’„๐’๐’–๐’“๐’”๐’†, ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’† ๐’‚๐’“๐’† ๐’Ž๐’๐’Ž๐’†๐’๐’•๐’” ๐’๐’‡ ๐’„๐’‰๐’‚๐’๐’๐’†๐’๐’ˆ๐’† ๐’๐’“ ๐’Ž๐’๐’Ž๐’†๐’๐’•๐’” ๐’๐’‡ ๐’˜๐’†๐’‚๐’Œ๐’๐’†๐’”๐’” ๐’˜๐’‰๐’†๐’ ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’•๐’๐’ ๐’Š๐’๐’…๐’–๐’๐’ˆ๐’† ๐’Š๐’ ๐‘ฎ๐‘ต๐‘ช๐‘ช. ๐‘ฉ๐’–๐’•, ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’•๐’“๐’Š๐’„๐’Œ ๐’Š๐’” ๐’•๐’ ๐’„๐’๐’Ž๐’† ๐’๐’–๐’• ๐’๐’‡ ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’” ๐’Š๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’”๐’‰๐’๐’“๐’•๐’†๐’”๐’• ๐’‘๐’๐’”๐’”๐’Š๐’ƒ๐’๐’† ๐’•๐’Š๐’Ž๐’† ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’ˆ๐’†๐’• ๐’ƒ๐’‚๐’„๐’Œ ๐’๐’ ๐’•๐’“๐’‚๐’„๐’Œ.โ€

Thatโ€™s true โ€” we are all humans. Every day we are assaulted by negativity, criticism, complaints, and gossip from all directions. They can totally surround and absorb us if we are not conscious of them.

And maximizing your mindset for positivity starts inside of us first. Looking for others to be different or change in order for you to be positive and optimistic is giving away your personal and spiritual power.

So, what are some of the ways you are improving your mental health and maximizing a positive mindset?

This interview was part of my book, MAKE IT HAPPEN! Empowering Stories of 9 Uncommonly Common People Living Their Purpose. It is a free ebook and can be downloaded here.

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Sanket Pai

Reinvent Yourself โ€” Leap Ahead & Human Potential Coach | NLP | EFT || Author | TEDx Speaker | Dad | Design Thinker. Posts may contain affiliate links to Amazon.